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when is it too young to be having sex?

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@ 29-07-2007 01:34 caliXkisses09
10 posts	hah i was reading this thing today and this girl was talking about having sex with her boyfriend and shes 11!! is that f***ing crazy or is it just me

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0 @ 29-07-2007 17:42 NightHobbit
23,464 posts	^ i'm a teenager and i bloody well think of the consewuences of my actiosn so dont group all teenagers in one group due to a minor few who are irresponsible. underage idiots+sex= unwanted pregnancies, shitty parenting, financial impairment, physical infection/disease, emotional catastrophes, etc. =bad idea considering most kids that are in the system and live care homes and have been abused come from 'normal' middle class families when their parents are in their mid 20s to 40s is a bit of a lack of trust in teenagers. And as proven already age is not a factor when it comes to parenting. You can still be in your mid 40s and be mentally unable to cope with a child and stil dont want your baby give shitty parenting and be in financial impairment if you live on the streets or involved with drugs. Or are in a shitty marriage when a baby comes around.
0 @ 29-07-2007 17:42 NightHobbit
23,464 posts	mid 30s to 40s*
0 @ 29-07-2007 20:01 Pandora
22,852 posts	just FYI, we have categories, and you should really try using them for your topics... second, please don't make any more threads about someone being hot or whatever, the only thing that's thread worthy is something that will spawn a discussion and not a 'you don't agree because you suck' bash. and please... just don't make a million threads before you search, because I know there's another thread exactly the same as this... no not all old threads should be reused, but teenage, and preteen sex isn't a great phenomenon, it's been going on for a while. rockon tabitha
0 @ 29-07-2007 20:03 Pandora
22,852 posts	And as proven already age is not a factor when it comes to parenting. You can still be in your mid 40s and be mentally unable to cope with a child and stil dont want your baby give shitty parenting and be in financial impairment if you live on the streets or involved with drugs. Or are in a shitty marriage when a baby comes around. just jumping in... sure age doesn't matter all the time, but it's more likely that a child raising a child will work out worse than an adult raising a child... in most cases. rockon tabitha
0 @ 30-07-2007 00:52 ZzZzZzZ
2,808 posts	Too young? It's so hard to tell. It depends on the persons. You need to be ready to face the consequences of your actions (or the potential consequence aka a child). I think that when you are old enough to understand that sex is not just something that you do for fun or cause everyone do it, when you understand that it is about love, then you're one step closer to 'being ready'. You can't really say 'after ... years old', it's ok. But I believe that 12-13 is WAY too young.
0 @ 30-07-2007 01:11 PunkRckr8
9,392 posts	"If there's grass on the field, its time to play ball" not really, but I felt like posting that here
0 @ 30-07-2007 01:20 Pandora
22,852 posts	oh you big nasty. rockon tabitha
0 @ 30-07-2007 02:06 KateKateKate
5,285 posts	18 or older.
0 @ 30-07-2007 02:06 KateKateKate
5,285 posts	Or uh, that's the age you should be if you're going to, not when it's too young. Younger than 18 is definitely too young I think.
0 @ 30-07-2007 03:56 Playmate01
3,893 posts	well my sister is 13 and when i told her that i want her to stay a virgin till she is married she laughed at me and said f**k that. to be honest i felt like ripping her throat out but then again when i was that age and if someone told me that i woulda said they exact same thing. So long as she waits till she is 16. and has a boyfriend lol.
0 @ 30-07-2007 04:01 PinkFloyd
25,789 posts	I think the answer lies merely on the individuals maturity. If you can take care of yourself and your partner at the age of 15, then fine, if you don't think you can, then you shouldn't be having sex. I could never have imagined myself ready at 15, but some people are raised better than others and taught how to take care of themselves, so by all means.
0 @ 30-07-2007 10:11 Pandora
22,852 posts	I don't think it has anything to do with maturity, I stick behind my view of 'don't have sex until you are ready to have a kid.'.... case closed. no 15 year old wants a kid, much less could actually handle it... so they shouldn't be having sex, and sure some 24 year olds don't need a kid either... haha so it all works out. rockon tabitha
0 @ 30-07-2007 11:06 sarahcrossi
32 posts	too many kids are having sex too early they grow up too fast nowadays f--- it if theyre gonna have it be safe at least!
0 @ 30-07-2007 12:46 Dagor
33,248 posts	"If there's grass on the field, its time to play ball" hahahaha, that made me laugh Now, ontopic. Okay, so my views on sex might be obscured by the fact that I actually have done it a few times. I very much agree to what Anthony said. I don't like the whole mystification of sex. It is something fun to do, that's all. The whole baby and marriage thing connected with it is so last century, and maybe even 19th century, but certainly not extending passed that. The majority of people over history might have not been bothered too much about repressing themselves. I am not saying that you should have sex at very young age (I will come to that in a moment) but repressing yourself at a later age is unnatural .. for me it ranges in the same category as anorexia. In the past babies were very much wanted, since a. a lot of them died in early years b. children were needed to support a household at the same time children were only accepted if they were born in a safe environment, created by commitments of the parents (marriage). So in the last 2 centuries, society and moral has done a lot to ensure that children were born and within the safety of a marriage. They also have done a lot to prevent that children were born outside this safety, which has been valid. In the past having babies was directly connected to having sex, so no unwanted babies means: no sex. The desire for a lot of children is no longer there, and contraception has been developped as well, so not having sex in order to avoid having babies (and be "disgraced" by having babies and not be married) is no longer required. Safe sex should always be practiced. So for the moment having sex and getting unwanted babies is no longer connected at all. At least if you're mature and informed enough about safe sex. (apart from possibly getting babies, there is a number of diseases as well that you can get) So prerequisite no.1 for having sex: KNOW what you are doing!! (so basically be informed about safe sex!). That already implies that you have reached a certain maturity. And then there is the emotional aspect. It is a bit of a shame that past generations have put so many curses and tabus on sex, so that we actually still believe that sex is something gigantic. Well, it is not. Nevertheless, because of all these tabus of the past, a lot of young people might still have emotional problems with facing the first time, so here comes prerequisite no.2: Don't do it unless you absolutely FEEL comfy about it! Don't let anyone put pressure on you and don't do it for the first time because your hormones knocked every bit of sense out of you (and yes, those hormones are extremely powerful). To summarise: there is not really an age limit, as long as you know what you are doing and feel absolutely comfy about it. That is my five cents.
0 @ 30-07-2007 13:13 FatJo
3,025 posts	Who am I to tell someone they're too young to have sex. If they feel ready, then really it's not for me to say otherwise. I would just hope that they're mature enough to engage in safe sex and that they were emotionally stable at the time and not pressured into it. Being a mum, yes I would rather my son wasn't having sex before the legal age of 16 and yes, I would rather he didn't have sex with someone underage also, but if he was in relationship where both parties are happy to go "the extra mile" then I suppose I'd have to live with it.
0 @ 30-07-2007 17:24 vandy
9,508 posts	the same range as anorexia? that's really, really extreme.
0 @ 30-07-2007 17:29 KateKateKate
5,285 posts	Although I think the problem with what Sierra said is usually people feel ready, they feel they can handle it, but they can't. There's tons of young people who do it thinking they can deal with it and then it turns out they don't. It's like that with a lot of things, I was just talking with someone about this yesterday. I do like what Daniel said, and I agree to some extent, that because of the mystification of sex a huge emotional weight is placed in it, but I still think it's a matter that should be dealt with delicately, it's kind of hard to explain without having a long winded post that could end up making no sense, so I have to think about how to say it before I do.
0 @ 30-07-2007 17:58 Bucephalus
2,018 posts	Anything below 16 years old s too young.. But i know plenty of people who started at 15 and they turned out fine. As long as it is safe and all that jazz, everything is fine.
0 @ 30-07-2007 19:52 WH1
290 posts	Nada. No,it's NOT just you,that IS crazy.
0 @ 30-07-2007 22:08 caliXkisses09
10 posts	thanks pandora sorry i don't meet up to your lsi expectations
0 @ 30-07-2007 22:31 sweet_J_
17,089 posts	I don't think it has anything to do with maturity, I stick behind my view of 'don't have sex until you are ready to have a kid.'.... case closed. Agreed or be ready for any of the other consequences that comes along with sex such as diseases. Even though I lost mine at 18, I still wish that I would have waited instead of losing it to an a-hole. I wish Keefe would have been my first.
0 @ 30-07-2007 23:07 Pandora
22,852 posts	sorry i don't meet up to your lsi expectations nah, just doing my duties, you don't know until someone tells you ... yea? rockon tabitha
0 @ 31-07-2007 11:12 Dagor
33,248 posts	vandy - 0 + # 3773552 @ 30-07-2007 19:24 9,256 posts the same range as anorexia? that's really, really extreme. well, I do make extreme statements, you should know that Let me explain: from a biological point of view, we have a couple of self-conserving urges: sleeping, drinking, eating, sex (in that order, there might be a couple more). Whereas the first 3 concern yourself, the last one concerns the species. That doesn't mean that the urge is less strong (and it probably is a lot stronger for men, so excuse me if I paint this too much from a male point of view). Sex hormones build up a lot of pressure in the body ... in certain circumstances it even dominates you completely. Nature rewards you for having sex a lot (orgasms release this pressure and other hormones make sure that you feel happy about the whole thing). So from a biological point of view: repressing the urge to have sex would be the same thing as repressing the urge to eat. Okay, I admit this is extreme, but you'll get the point
0 @ 01-08-2007 04:57 Bucephalus
2,018 posts	Someone is thinking too deeply...again. ^
0 @ 01-08-2007 10:48 Dagor
33,248 posts	shallowness is for ... give them some spot on a pasture where they can stand and think of nothing and look dumb and take them to the slaughterhouse afterwards .. sorry, that is not for me, but whatever makes you happy.