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why fall in love with your best friend?


30-05-2006 02:06 tinkerbellrocks
1,131 posts	i seen a lot of people here that have fallen in love with there best friend. i wonder how this happens. do you just suddenly decide that you love them one day? or is it more gradual? please explain the enigma to me.

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30-05-2006 02:11 lilBlondeloser
1,703 posts	its gradual, I fell for him pretty quick but it took me a while to have such strong feelings for him
30-05-2006 02:45 FireWaterBurn
28,885 posts	I can see why it'd be kinda easy... If you are best friends, chances are that you have a lot in common...and the other person is relatively attractive. So maybe eventually you just start to think that no one is more perfect than her/him..
30-05-2006 03:24 jOsIe_Gj
541 posts	hum in fact i don't think you decide to love your best friend, it just happens. But yeah, as said above, you do have a lot in common normally when you're best friends. or then you just understand the other really easily, which is not given to everybody in some cases. and being with this person all the time and having fun are two things that can lead to loving the other. but i still do not think you "decide" to fall for the other!
30-05-2006 03:34 DolphinStarr
2,356 posts	Its gradual, you start off as friends and things progress until you finally come to the realization that you are in love with them. Its more of a putting words to what you've started to feel.
30-05-2006 03:36 Schatzi
21,747 posts	suddenly decide that you love them Do you ever just decide that you love someone? Honestly? I think not.
30-05-2006 03:47 Playmate01
3,893 posts	i have no idea but tinker bell does rock
30-05-2006 04:23 manutd_4eva
1,395 posts	no..i cant fall in love with my bestfriend, hes a guy lol, and my other bestfriend is a chik and still no...
30-05-2006 12:47 missLP
818 posts	FireWaterBurn 30-05-2006 02:45 AM 26,829 posts offline I can see why it'd be kinda easy... If you are best friends, chances are that you have a lot in common...and the other person is relatively attractive. So maybe eventually you just start to think that no one is more perfect than her/him.. i completely agree with this idea. bicaz it happened to me, and when he understood, he never talked to me again. and im trying to forget what foolish things ive done, but its hard to forget. now everyday i see him at university, and memory of him becomes alive again. i hate myself.
30-05-2006 12:51 missLP
818 posts	i forgot to say, i hate myself bicaz i never understood we were just friends, no more.
30-05-2006 12:51 NightHobbit
23,504 posts	thats what happens when loves comes into picture
30-05-2006 12:54 missLP
818 posts	what do u mean?
30-05-2006 12:56 r0q
272 posts	its usually gradual. when someone know u so much more than u do, always there for u; listening and understands u more than anyone could, it is possible to fall for them. more so if u are a girl.
30-05-2006 12:58 NightHobbit
23,504 posts	i mean when you are great friends with someone but begin to feel something more for them there's 75% chance of it effing up, because they don't feel the same way. the other 25 % are jsut lucky buggars.
30-05-2006 13:00 missLP
818 posts	yes, thats wat happened to me. and the worse thing is i cant forgive myself. im a fool. im a kid. oh my God...
30-05-2006 15:29 Plantagenet
12,864 posts	The fact that this someone is your best friend, means that he's already very special to you and means much to you. It also means that you have a lot in common, that there is a lot you share and can talk about. That you feel comfortable around him, that he's always there when you need a friend. Isn't that also what we seek in a relationship? I guess that's why, at least, that's why I fell in love with my best (male) friend.
30-05-2006 15:40 InterNeta
4 posts	well, it's kinda the logical thing to do, falling in love with your best friend. it's a person you feel the most comfortable with, you can tell them anything, you enjoy their company, and you trust them. if you're attracted to them as well, I think falling in love with them is quite the obvious next step. I don't know, I think that many people (definately including myself) wants their romantic partner to be their best friend, see as in being a bf/gf, the emphasis shouldn't be put on the romantic side, as much as on a best friend I can sleep with lol. that way you get emotional and physical satisfaction from this person, and that's just a great thing for everyone. lol that's why I tend to have crushes on guy friends I have, cuz the fact they're my friends is proof enough for me why they should be more.
30-05-2006 15:43 Plantagenet
12,864 posts	the other 25 % are jsut lucky buggars. Yeah, indeed, I praise myself very lucky that he understood and didn't turn his back on me. I even think we know better who we are for each other after I told him.
30-05-2006 15:57 EmoRockGirl85
14,084 posts	there's a reason this person is your best friend. you trust him the most, you do everything together...i mean, best friends with someone of the opposite sex is basically dating without the physical stuff. it's natural that it would progress into more.
02-06-2006 20:14 tinkerbellrocks
1,131 posts	thank you. i get it now.
02-06-2006 20:51 Roxy_Ryan
21,758 posts	Bull. Shit. If two people truly are best friends then something like one developing feelings for the other will certainly not screw things up. If it does, then the two people can't have truly been best friends. Being best friends requires such a strong bond that can battle through anything, so small things like one developing feelings for the other will certainly not affect anything in a negative way.
03-06-2006 01:22 cairowinters
3,451 posts	You don't just "decide" to fall in love. It just...happens... I suppose.
08-06-2006 19:11 crystalluvsGD
157 posts	I want a Boy to be my Best Friend first
23-08-2006 21:44 mpj9121
90 posts	it depends. sometimes its gradual and sometimes its sudden. it's worse when its sudden though cos u immediately hav 2 still be their friend AND hide ur feelins at the same time!! in conclusion: fallin in love wiv ur best friend is a screw-up.
06-09-2006 04:33 oona14
132 posts	Never fall in love with your best friend you wont be friends at the end of it all. This happened to me and i regret screwing it up
07-09-2006 00:03 cairowinters
3,451 posts	^^ It's not always a screw-up. You've just gotta take your chances like in any other relationship.