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How Are You Doing? Jr.
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@ 30-01-2006 16:20 vandy | 
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| I'm not exactly sure why this thread is different, why y'all let me be the one to make a second thread, but I do appreciate it  . This thread is my baby, the first How Are You Doing marks the first thread of mine that made it long enough to be closed .
Anyway, you know how it goes. Post in here if you're happy, sad, angry, mediocre...just...how are you doing?
The first thread was made over 2 years ago when I was friends with a guy named Ben. It saw me through that whole friendship. It saw me through my move to college, making tons of new friends and having a great time, I've probably got at least one drunk post in there, it saw me through a bad relationship and an eating disorder, and the glory I shined in as I left both behind.
I will stop babbling and now dedicate the second chapter to Matt, Celeste, and Carole who've seen me through it all, since the beginning of that thread and before, and continue to be my friends now. |
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 +1  @ 11-05-2008 03:16 zjenn4 | 
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| I myself am doing pretty great. I am somewhat satisfied with life, but I intend to make some serious improvements for I have become board with the "just good enough."
But I am also sad. Not for myself, but I have a lot of friends that are just having really hard times right now. I can only do so much for them, but my heart is with them. I don't want to see them in such a low state. I would give anything for them to be happy and well. I try and act like I don't care, but in the end I am only fooling myself. I do care about everyone, so when someone is having a hard time, I have a hard time with them. I just want everyone to be okay, and they're not, and I can't do anything about it, and that makes me sad. | 0 @ 11-05-2008 07:27 Schatzi | 
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| I'm drunk & annoyed he didn't answer my call. Effing a-hole. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 07:39 carole | 26,874 posts
| "I didn't date only 2 guys that treated me like sh*t... They were plenty. But of course, I'm not saying that all guys are scum. I'm just saying that many of them are. And I'm not the only girl that have said this."
yea so my point was : has it ever occurred to u that maybe, just maybe, u and the girls u're talkin about just pick the wrong guys? or maybe its worse than that, maybe u actually push guys' buttons so far that they end up being jerks with u when they normally wouldnt? lol thats just a hypothesis, dont get offended really.
"And I don't like to chase those types of guys.. I really really like good and nice guys. I like to be treated well. But I always end up being treated like sh*t by guys. But maybe it was only bad luck"
so what u're sayin is u always go for good and nice guys, but they always end up treating u like sh*t ? i mean, u end up being treated like sh*t by guys who are normally good and nice ? ... QED lol
"Here, there is a famous sentence that can be translated more or less like this: "men are worthless". If this sentence is famous, I guess it's cause there really are a lot of men that are scum."
yea that doesnt cross borders cuz ive never heard that sentence before lol. theres also a famous sentence that goes "all blonde girls are stupid", do u think theres truth behind that ?
(i repeat, please do not take what i say as an offense, we're just discussing here...) | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 07:48 Schatzi |
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| heh, I'm totally willing to admit that I always go for guys that are jerks, I wish, I didn't but I do. I'll blame it on the fact that I've grown up around dysfunctional relationships all my life but really it's just me. I know better yet I always end up liking the number one douchebag. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 07:57 carole | 26,874 posts
| well, considering the number of guys ive ended up with who were complete @ssh*les, i guess i also fall in the category of "girls who definitely dont pick the right guys".. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 07:59 Schatzi |
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| Yeaah, I don't think all guys are scum. I've met many that I'm sure would have treated me like a princess, but yet I always come back to the ones that treat me like complete & utter shite. I don't know whats wrong with me. I need to stop it. Now. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 08:05 carole | 26,874 posts
| mm, Heather, from what i see u saying on here, i suppose the thing is that u actually like a bit of a challenge. so u're probably not attracted to random nice and romantic guys cuz u're afraid they wont surprise u? | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 08:06 Schatzi |
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| It's true. Once they're nice to me it's no fun anymore. At least play hard to get for a week or two. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 17:23 Acqua | 
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| I'm so confused, i said things i didnt want to say, but i really had to. I can't keep going on like this.. I hope things get better  i screwed everything up | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 18:47 Joeyy | 
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| At the risk of being seen as sexist towards my own sex, I think that the problem often lies with the woman instead and she places blame solely on the man most of the time, because who wants to blame themselves, right? Yes there are guys who are "scum" out there but there are also so many who do, or would, treat their woman in the "right way", lovingly, nicely. Yet women like ze ones on this page find themselves with men who treat them badly and then they themselves get upset and complain, or if they do find a nice guy it isn't good enough, they aren't satisfied. I believe that before you state something like "I need to stop going for the guys who treat me like crap", you have to look for the reason why this has been happening because you know from the beginning that you're going to end up feeling hurt and frustrated, and thinking the same old thing, and feeling p*ssed and bitter. So why are you attracted to these men in the first place? Because by the sound of it, the surprises they might bring -
"so u're probably not attracted to random nice and romantic guys cuz u're afraid they wont surprise u?" … "It's true. Once they're nice to me it's no fun anymore."
- are not good ones. But that's what you like? What it seems like is being said there is that it's not actually fun to have a nice guy, so what do you want? Fed up of being treated badly but not satisfied when treated nicely? Sounds like Buffy. I don't think you can just look for the person who'd be to you what you want, (I'm speaking generally here). So many people are concerned with finding the right person for them, I suppose in cases like this it'd be someone who does treat their partner well but at the same time keeps the fun and excitement in the relationship. And there are people like that, men included, but they aren't going to be there just because you go to a club looking for them, you have to have patience and be willing to get to know someone and give them chances.
Very recently I had a talk with a close friend and I said to her "Really, you have to get your priorities right" because a few years ago she was ill, (nothing life-threatening), and she drank a lot, took different illegal drugs, slept around, was treated very badly by the guys she was with yet she chose to go back to them even though she was miserable because at least they were giving her attention and screwing her (and had the drugs), and her marks were dropping badly. Then she started dating my best friend who, at the time, wasn't exactly a loyal guy and didn't know females too well because he'd only been with them for the physical side but he didn't treat any "badly". Well, I thought there was no chance of them working out because of how they both were but as they has been friends for a number of years I was a little hopeful and although they've had rough patches, they're still together, three years in October I think. The reason I said that (about priorities) to my friend the other day was because she was complaining about him "smothering" her - which I honestly don't think he does, they both go out with separate friends and spend time apart or doing their own thing, he has a job and she goes to college - and she said she really wanted to take a year out to travel, but it was only in April that he started paying for an apartment for them because she didn't want to live with the stress of home anymore and she asked him to move in with her. She's also still tempted by drugs and by this one guy in particular who she knows wants to scr*w her and who takes drugs, sometimes she considers leaving my friend to do this or just wants to go and have sex with this boy. So when we spoke and I said that I followed it by reminding her of how she used to be, and how depressed she was, and pointing out that my male friend is working his ass off to pay for the apartment for her, he cares for her a lot, he does things for her, he pays attention to her, being with him keeps her clean and on track with college, why would she trade that for how it/she used to be? Unless she likes feeling like sh*t and risking messing up her life, then she should go to a professional for help if she can't help herself.
Then there's like, hmm. A boy in one of my classes said on Friday how he called his mum to ask what brand of food she wanted for something and how this was "such a male thing to do". At the time we were talking about how males can't do things like shop on their own because there's too much choice for them. But I don't think that's their fault, I check too when I'm shopping for a female, not because I don't know which brands people consider to be the best or which I think taste great (using food as the example), but because if I don't come back with exactly the right one they get mad at me or they look disappointed and either way I end up feeling bad (and usually go back for what they want or spend the rest of the night feeling terrible because they told me not to go back but are then in a mood with me). Yet when I call to ask because they weren't specific enough when they told me what to get they get annoyed at me for calling. Fair enough if it's something they have often and love then I should know what they like best but if it's not then how am I supposed to know? And the girls I know, if what they want isn't there when you're buying it for them then it's automatically your fault the majority of the time, or they don't believe you and deem you either a liar or an idiot for not looking hard enough.
And then there are the tests some women like to do. My ex told me once not to buy her a Valentine's Day card because she hated the day and she was insistent so I thought I best do what she wanted (but get her a present still) so that she didn't get mad at me. It came to the 14th, I hadn't bought her a card, she was very upset, said I should have known to buy her a card despite what she said. Why? Why not either be direct about what you want or just not say anything, because I would have bought one in the first place. I hear about other girls doing this, it's not just her.
I don't think you can generalize that all men are scum at all, not close. I think everyone's complicated and like KateKateKate said about men, misunderstood. We don't know what goes on in each other's mind or heart, the exacts of what someone else wants. I think Glory hit the nail on the head.
* offtopic :
I can't be assed checking this through for mistakes, sorry.
On a more on-topic note, I'm hot because of this weather. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 19:20 carole | 26,874 posts
| nice post joeey lol
some of the stuff u said here fits what i was sayin too..
(and just for the record i never said i enjoyed being with jerks who treated me like sh*t, it wasnt fun either, buuuut an over romantic guy can get boring. AND ive "tested" girls too, they can be jerks too lol)
just about the valentines card anecdote.. it is true that women are complicated lol. but heres a tip and this is for all the pple who struggle with their significant other's presents and stuff: when a girl says "i dont want a present", what she actually expects from u is to nod in agreement, say u wont give her one, YET still get her a present as a surprise. it may be complicated but thats cuz she doesnt wanna have to ask for a present, she just wants to remind u that v-day is coming up, in case u forgot.
think of it this way : if u get her a present when she didnt ask for it, or even if she specifically asked u not to get her one, do u think she'll throw it in your face? nah. no one would do that. she'll be happy and thats that. and u'll be a hero cuz u actually surprised her.
the point is, u can never go wrong with presents. (except if u give her a free entry to visit the chrysler building when shes afraid of heights, or if u give her a huge dog when shes in a small appartment,.. thats just dumb).
try it, really. give flowers to a girl who said she thinks flowers are stupid cuz they dont last (lots of girls say that). i bet u anything she'll be super happy with her surprise flowers.
so in the end its not THAT complicated. presents = good. no presents = potentially bad. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 19:34 Joeyy |
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| Aw, I know you didn't Carole, I didn't mean all do.
And haha, thanks for the advise though I learnt that when the card thing happened and just figured it applied to every situation. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 19:36 Joeyy |
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| (And no, it's not that complicated but there's no need for any complication in the first place.) | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 22:03 LynnLynn15 | 
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| hmm, longest weekend everr.
between work and the hoedown, i got pretty much noo sleep. eh
and finally things are better between me and him. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 22:25 indiechick_ | 
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| this can be interesting. a week ago, me and my friend signed up at this modeling agency, not because we think we're pretty enough to be models, but because quite often they need extras for tv shows, movies and stuff. they sent me an email on friday saying that i should come over next week, but i just saw it now because gmail thought it was spam. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 22:38 Aluna | 1,227 posts
| Wow... It was not my intention to generate a big discussion about men, haha..
Carole, only now I read you post. I will answer:
1) Yeah, I think that me ant these girls usually pick the wrong guys, but it's probably because of bad luck. No, I don't push guys' buttons, haha. They are the ones that try to loosen my buttons. That's ok, I didn't get offended, considering it was only a hypothesis.
2) Yes, I always go for good and nice guys. I'm not saying that they are normally good and nice to other people. I meant that I thought they were good and nice. They seemed like good guys. But then I end up noticing that they were not like this.
3) No, I don't think that blonde girls are stupid, lol. Yeah, I know that the "men are worthless" is not famous everywhere, but it's famous here. I tried to translate the original sentence, but maybe I didn't translate it right. I guess it would be better translated to "men are all scum", lol... I know they aren't all scum, but I guess LOTS of them are. I know that lots of women are also scum, but I guess there are more men that are scum. I hear more stories of men being scum than women. But this is just a hypothesis, too.
Yeah, I know this is just a discussion, it's ok... ^^
| | +3 @ 11-05-2008 22:46 indiechick_ |
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* offtopic :
this discussion seems to me a lot like a dog chasing its tail
| | 0 @ 11-05-2008 22:50 Schatzi |
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| I'm not bitter towards men though. I know it's not their fault that I'm dumb & keep going back to the ones that don't treat me right. Whether I'm with a guy that treats me like a princess or one that treats me like crap there will always be problems though. There will always be a reason to want to complain about them just most likely on a rarer occasion & for less douchetastic reasons. It's not like I really enjoy being treated like crap. I just know that I always end up going after those guys. It's almost too easy when a guy is just nice to me & likes me. It's like I have to go out of my way to make a guy like me. Anyway, I just don't want to be lumped into a group of girls that likes teh bad boys & enjoys complaining about it & wants to be bitter about it. That's not me. Not at all.
& in response to your post in randomness Carole, I didn't care what he said as long as it was just the truth. Because whenever I ask him even remotely serious questions like that he just won't answer. It pisses me off. I just want to know why out of all of his friends at work I get treated the worst because I actually still like him & want to be his friend. Whereas everyone else that secretly talks about how terrible behind his back or is just outright mean to his face he's super nice to & tries to kiss their *****. I mean I have a good idea why but yeah. whatever. He just makes me angry. | | 0 @ 11-05-2008 23:06 Aluna | 1,227 posts
| I read Joey's post, too. I liked it. But right now I can't comment on it, cause I have to do some things. Later I'll read the other posts.
bye! | | 0 @ 12-05-2008 00:19 KateKateKate | 
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| How are more men scum than women? Man, I've heard and seen some girls do some crappy things. Cheating on decent guys, badmouthing their boyfriend to their friends for being too "clingy." I agree with what Joey said, if a guy is too nice, girls think he's too "boring" or "clingy" or whatever...but most guys I know have really good intentions. Yes, some guys are jerks, and I've certainly encountered my fair share of those, but a LOT of girls do things like play mindgames to "test" their boyfriend, purposely make him jealous to see if he loves her, etc etc.
I said most men are misunderstood because it's true. A guy makes a joke that he thinks is funny, but the girl thinks is "insensitive" and then never lets him live it down. Or if he forgets the 1872'th day anniversary of their first date, he's a "jerk", if he isn't a mindreader who can predict when she's upset or when she wants something...gah, I'm so glad my girlfriend isn't like that, I'd go mad!
Not saying all girls are like that but many are, I'd go so far as to say more than guys who really don't give a shit about the girl they're with. I know some decent guys who really just want to meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and connection with her (not sexually). On top of that I think some guys act "macho" around their friends so they don't get made fun of. Not saying that's right, but yeah.
| | 0 @ 13-05-2008 12:41 indiechick_ |
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| aww. she texted me to tell me that Blondie is playing near her town on july 5th, cause she knows how much i like it. i told her that i won't get to england before july 12th, but i looked up and she's got a gig scheduled for london on july 28th. i guess that means she still thinks of me, or else she wouldn't bother with texting to let me know about my favorite bands. i shouldn't get too happy about it, though. | | 0 @ 13-05-2008 19:22 Acqua |
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| i'm so upset!!!  the people in my class are so idiot! I can't stand them.. i hate them all | | 0 @ 14-05-2008 00:38 LynnLynn15 |
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| oh goodness, what a day.
school to dance to bicycle riding, one right after the other...
longest bike-ride ever hah, like ten miles and of course kayla nor i knew that about thirty minutes before we left that two girls had been killed at the corner we were going to and they were hit by a car while crossing the street. when we were on our way back, the officer who was directing traffic got all yelly and was like "be careful! two girls just got killed at this same corner about an hour ago, you know!!" and we had no idea. and yea, but he was the only mean one. i can understand wheres hes coming from, he just didnt want us to get hurt. the one on the opposite corner was nice though he wasnt so.. yelly-ish and rude.
| | 0 @ 14-05-2008 03:12 Aluna | 1,227 posts
| this discussion seems to me a lot like a dog chasing its tail
I agree, haha. But I didn't even intend to discuss about this... I was only trying to let off steam, by saying what I was feeling about men... And then people started to comment on my posts, so I had to reply them back, haha. I wanted to avoid any misunderstandings that could happen, so I tryed to explain my ideas better.
Regarding some posts I read above, yes, I think some girls are very complicated, haha. And some girls are really mean, they cheat on good guys... Yeah. Well, I really don't know if there are more girls or more guys that are scum. Maybe girls complain more than guys... But I guess more guys tend to have a certain behavior - wishing to date a girl only for the sex. This is typical of guys. I know that girls do this too, but IMO a lot more guys do it than girls... And it hurts a lot when you (me) find out that a guy wanted to go out with you only for the sex... And then you (me) say: I don't wanna have sex with you, I just wanna talk. Then the guy says: ok, so I don't wanna meet you. =| (he actually said this).
But ok, as many people complained about this repetitive posts, I'll stop talking about this.
| | 0 @ 14-05-2008 03:14 Schatzi |
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| If you're going to call someone the mean evil baaaaad c word, you should at least have the balls to pick up your phone if they call after sending them a text to call them the mean evil word. Seriously. Just grow up already. I don't get him at all. |
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